C S Lewis with some wise wise words:
For me
the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in
lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his
own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even
grandchildren) and turns it back: sends the man back into the prison of
himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. And this harem, once
admitted, works against his ever getting
out and really uniting with a real woman. For the harem is always accessible,
always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed
with erotic and psychological attractions which no real woman can rival. Among
those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover: no demand
is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. In
the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores
himself…. And it is not only the faculty of love which is thus sterilized,
forced back on itself, but also the faculty of imagination.
The true exercise of imagination, in my view, is
(a) To help us to understand other people (b) To respond to, and, some of us,
to produce, art. But it has also a bad use: to provide for us, in shadowy form,
a substitute for virtues, successes, distinctions etc. which ought to be sought outside in the real world—e.g. picturing all I’d
do if I were rich instead of earning and saving. Masturbation involves this
abuse of imagination in erotic matters (which I think bad in itself) and
thereby encourages a similar abuse of it in all spheres. After all, almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, our of the little, dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison.
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